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bee
12-09-06, 09:03 PM
I am Dominican and I am currently in a relationship with a very smart and nice Hatian man. I love him very much, but he is so enigmatic that I donīt really know that he loves me back... He says he loves me, that i am his manman, his special madame. He also talks about a future together... However, the way protects his personal life make me have second thoughts about him.... I would like some answers from the experts in this forum:

1.- Are all Hatians so enigmatic?
2.- Is a culture issue not to share personal information?
3.- Is a culture custom to say ĻI love youĻ even if you donīt really mean it?

Please guys, help me with this questions.

Suggestions are highly appreciated!!!

LaBee

love_jenny
07-31-07, 02:58 AM
What the difference with that ??? Seriously i don't see big difference to both of them country. Of course Haiti. We speak creole, french and live in the other side of the island. And Dominican speak spanish... What the deal ??? Sorry i don't call it mixed cultural at all. Tell me about a Cuban and a haitian. Or a Dominican and an Italian.

Al Saqr
07-31-07, 08:49 AM
He says he loves me, that i am his manman
I would get rid of this guy.

Lei Lei
01-02-08, 10:13 AM
Solid Foundation

LaBee

Your question is not one of interracial relationships. Because trying to figure out whether a person loves you or not has nothing to do with race, culture or creed. Your question is one regarding trust, mystery, openness and communication. If I am understanding correctly, you love a man that you are not sure if he loves you. You know sometimes actions speak louder than words. Sometimes you have to follow your head and not your heart. Do you feel that he loves you? Does he show you he loves you? How long have you been with him that by now you wouldn't know? He calls you his "Special Madame". Special then indicates that there are others, wouldn't you say, because what is special if you are number one. Being number one speaks for its self, no need to tell you, you are special. that's just like saying "I got this especially for you." That's because I got that, especially for everybody else.

How can you talk about a future, if you do not know his past. Communication is keen in all that you do. Getting to know what you are getting involved with is essential, especially in this day and age.

I am no expert, but I do know that there are Haitian men out there who, even if it is a lie you would never know it, because the way that they make you feel, you would be deceived into believing that they love you. I know that there are some Haitian men out there who actually do, and are able to communicate that they love you. Usually, a man that is really ready to build with you, needs you to understand his past, and things that he is going though so that there are no surprises later. So that you can build on something solid. So he's not wasting his time. A majority of the time, when a person finds someone who they feel is even "qualified" they are so ecstatic that they get diarrhea of the mouth about themselves and experiences that they've gone through.

Remember

If you build a house on a cracked foundation, eventually it will come crumbling down on its own, without being disturbed. However, if you build a house on a solid foundation, even if a person, were to hit it with a wrecking ball, the house will still stand and you will only need to repair the wall that is damaged.


I hope this helps.


101 WAYS

To Show You Love Somebody

(Not including having sex)


Tell the other person that you love them
Give or get a hug
Make sure the other person feels important and respected
Kiss when people are looking
Kiss when people aren't looking
Tell the other person that you care
Hold hands
Go for a long bike ride
Give a special present
Be there when they need a friend
Spend time together
Go to see a film
Walk arm in arm in the woods
Make a special tape of love songs
Talk about your feelings
Share dreams with each other
Snuggle up together
Sit together in the park
Take a walk together
Go out for a meal
Have a picnic
Play a game of frisbee
Give compliments
Relax in a jacuzzi
Go swimming
Just be close
Go shopping for food
Cook a meal together
Touch each other in a loving way
Do homework together
Plan and go on a trip together
Throw a party together
Bake a cake
Go to the library
Browse in a museum
Just be there
Find out what's special for the other person - and do it
Exercise together
Gaze at each other
Wash each other's cars (or bikes !)
Go fishing
Talk to each other
Listen to worries
Cut each other's toenails
Choose a special favourite song
Listen to joys
Hold one another close
Catch their eye
Write one another letters
Talk on the telephone
Trust one another
Give or receive a ring
Meet each other's family
Go hiking together
Make sacrifices for each other
Send chocolates
Respect each other
Go for a moonlight walk
Hide a love note where the other will find it
Give each other sexy looks
Write a poem
Send flowers
Eat dinner by candlelight
Go to a concert
Watch the sunrise together
Remember anniversaries
Give each other pet names
Go sightseeing
Rent a video
Do things for each other without being asked
Propose marriage
Whisper something nice into the other's ear
Be best friends
Have fun together
Go out dancing
Play music together
Flirt with each other
Laugh at something funny together
Be faithful
Impress each other
Make a list of things you like about each other
Read a book and discuss it
Meet each other's friends
Go horse riding
Cook each other's favourite food
Find out what makes each other happy
Make presents for each other
Wash each other's hair
Watch the sunset
Go for a bus trip
Have a request played on the radio
Send a funny card
Share your plans for the future
Play footsie
Share private jokes
Think about each other
Find out what makes the other sad
Go skating
Swap rings
Share an ice-cream
Have your picture taken together

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and in one of the local papers asking for
people's answers to the question:
If you and your girlfriend or boyfriend had
decided to wait before having sex...how
would you let the other person know you
loved her or him ?
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intruder
01-02-08, 11:38 AM
What the difference with that ??? Seriously i don't see big difference to both of them country. Of course Haiti. We speak creole, french and live in the other side of the island. And Dominican speak spanish... What the deal ??? Sorry i don't call it mixed cultural at all. Tell me about a Cuban and a haitian. Or a Dominican and an Italian.
They are NOT the same culture. Look at asia and europe. Same piece of land. DO you feel they are the same culturally? :dry: Come on now