Intruder, I thought I established the fact that I am in total agreement with you. What's good for the goose is good for the gander. Of course, MEN CAN DO AND MAKE THE CHOICES WE DO TOO.......Again, that is my whole point. Choices. The choices we (man or woman make, want to make or don't want to make) All that the levels is geared to do, is for those who are emotionally, mentally and physically able to respect these levels can use these levels as a guide line. You said yourself, someone wanted to "make it more than a level 3 affair and i chose not to" a diaolgue took place somewhere, for her to say she wanted more and you didn't. At the point that you said you didn't want to move on to the next level, she had a choice to make based on your decision. She had to choose whether or not she could deal with staying at where you wanted to stay at or to leave you alone. And you had to decide, whether or not you wanted to stand your ground and not move further or to leave her allone.
It really doesn't matter how the game is played. Because at the end of the day, its about who gets what, no one really cares how they got it.
Its a selfish world. And that's part of our problem as a whole.