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Solid Foundation

LaBee

Your question is not one of interracial relationships. Because trying to figure out whether a person loves you or not has nothing to do with race, culture or creed. Your question is one regarding trust, mystery, openness and communication. If I am understanding correctly, you love a man that you are not sure if he loves you. You know sometimes actions speak louder than words. Sometimes you have to follow your head and not your heart. Do you feel that he loves you? Does he show you he loves you? How long have you been with him that by now you wouldn't know? He calls you his "Special Madame". Special then indicates that there are others, wouldn't you say, because what is special if you are number one. Being number one speaks for its self, no need to tell you, you are special. that's just like saying "I got this especially for you." That's because I got that, especially for everybody else.

How can you talk about a future, if you do not know his past. Communication is keen in all that you do. Getting to know what you are getting involved with is essential, especially in this day and age.

I am no expert, but I do know that there are Haitian men out there who, even if it is a lie you would never know it, because the way that they make you feel, you would be deceived into believing that they love you. I know that there are some Haitian men out there who actually do, and are able to communicate that they love you. Usually, a man that is really ready to build with you, needs you to understand his past, and things that he is going though so that there are no surprises later. So that you can build on something solid. So he's not wasting his time. A majority of the time, when a person finds someone who they feel is even "qualified" they are so ecstatic that they get diarrhea of the mouth about themselves and experiences that they've gone through.

Remember

If you build a house on a cracked foundation, eventually it will come crumbling down on its own, without being disturbed. However, if you build a house on a solid foundation, even if a person, were to hit it with a wrecking ball, the house will still stand and you will only need to repair the wall that is damaged.

I hope this helps.

101 WAYS

To Show You Love Somebody

(Not including having sex)

1. Tell the other person that you love them
2. Give or get a hug
3. Make sure the other person feels important and respected
4. Kiss when people are looking
5. Kiss when people aren't looking
6. Tell the other person that you care
7. Hold hands
8. Go for a long bike ride
9. Give a special present
10. Be there when they need a friend
11. Spend time together
12. Go to see a film
13. Walk arm in arm in the woods
14. Make a special tape of love songs
15. Talk about your feelings
16. Share dreams with each other
17. Snuggle up together
18. Sit together in the park
19. Take a walk together
20. Go out for a meal
21. Have a picnic
22. Play a game of frisbee
23. Give compliments
24. Relax in a jacuzzi
25. Go swimming
26. Just be close
27. Go shopping for food
28. Cook a meal together
29. Touch each other in a loving way
30. Do homework together
31. Plan and go on a trip together
32. Throw a party together
33. Bake a cake
34. Go to the library
35. Browse in a museum
36. Just be there
37. Find out what's special for the other person - and do it
38. Exercise together
39. Gaze at each other
40. Wash each other's cars (or bikes !)
41. Go fishing
42. Talk to each other
43. Listen to worries
44. Cut each other's toenails
45. Choose a special favourite song
46. Listen to joys
47. Hold one another close
48. Catch their eye
49. Write one another letters
50. Talk on the telephone
51. Trust one another
52. Give or receive a ring
53. Meet each other's family
54. Go hiking together
55. Make sacrifices for each other
56. Send chocolates
57. Respect each other
58. Go for a moonlight walk
59. Hide a love note where the other will find it
60. Give each other sexy looks
61. Write a poem
62. Send flowers
63. Eat dinner by candlelight
64. Go to a concert
65. Watch the sunrise together
66. Remember anniversaries
67. Give each other pet names
68. Go sightseeing
69. Rent a video
70. Do things for each other without being asked
71. Propose marriage
72. Whisper something nice into the other's ear
73. Be best friends
74. Have fun together
75. Go out dancing
76. Play music together
77. Flirt with each other
78. Laugh at something funny together
79. Be faithful
80. Impress each other
81. Make a list of things you like about each other
82. Read a book and discuss it
83. Meet each other's friends
84. Go horse riding
85. Cook each other's favourite food
86. Find out what makes each other happy
87. Make presents for each other
88. Wash each other's hair
89. Watch the sunset
90. Go for a bus trip
91. Have a request played on the radio
92. Send a funny card
93. Share your plans for the future
94. Play footsie
95. Share private jokes
96. Think about each other
97. Find out what makes the other sad
98. Go skating
99. Swap rings
100. Share an ice-cream
101. Have your picture taken together

This leaflet was inspired by one produced in

Iowa,USA. We ran a competition in Milton

Keynes secondary schools and youth clubs

and in one of the local papers asking for

people's answers to the question:

If you and your girlfriend or boyfriend had

decided to wait before having sex...how

would you let the other person know you

loved her or him ?

Thanks very much to everyone who replied !

If you would like to talk to someone (in

confidence) about anything to do with

relationships, or if you do need advice about

contraception or sexually transmitted diseases,

you should contact the You2 Project on

01908 220042 or the Brook Advisory Centre on

01908 669215