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LAW 16

USE ABSENCE TO INCREASE RESPECT AND HONOR

In love making up can be fun as hell. You know, like the song says, "Break Up to Make Up", yes sir, can be the bomb. Reconciliation, can make feelings intensify. Make a love get stronger, last longer, give peace and satisfaction. The feeling that reconciliation gives can prompt one to want to piss someone off on purpose, just so that they can make up. Watch it though, it can back fire on you because a person won't always know that the harsh words and threatening gestures, the cruel acts is just part of your game. If it does backfire, you must, make the person remember all the good times and good things that you have done and shared. Continually. Do not give up. Keep at it, even if you see them with someone else. That is if you really want them. Groveling time for putting a person through unnecessary intentional mental, emotional and physical dram is approximately one year. It's hard for a person to forget and you definitely can't tell them you did it on purpose.

They say absence makes the hear grow fonder, but if you make yourself absent too early, you more than likely will be forgotten. You must wait until it appears that feelings are running ramped. And just bounce with no reason. Me, myself, if a person does that to me in this day and age, I don't know that I could handle that. There is so much going on. And though, a person needs no explanations, I feel, they would at least owe me that much. Who knows, my mind might have been running a mile a minute. I might not have been able to sleep. I might not have been able to eat. I might not have been able to function, constantly thinking about where they might be, what they are doing, what could be wrong. For some, they might feel that a person bailed because of something they did. But for me, if I didn't do nothing to the person, I'm not going to worry about it. I would worry about them, but I wouldn't worry about it. In the beginning the game of hide and seek is always fun. It's stimulating actually. You know how it is, sometimes the fantasy is better than the reality. What when there is no more fantasy, all that is left is reality. Remember, "Love never dies of starvation, but often of indigestion." You do not need to see a person every day. As long, as they are good you are good. As long as you know they are good, you are good and vice a versa.

Think about it, when you die, you get a new found respect from people for some reason. All the sudden people are remembering you, things you've done, criticizing you, missing you, remembering moments and times shared and they are filled with regret. You don't need to wait until you are dead to get this, disappear and reappear. Because unlike when you are dead and gone, you are dead and gone, a disappearing act allows a person and you to have more. Moments, Times. Feelings. Love. Success.

In business, its done all the time. If you make something scarce its value goes up. "The Sun. It can only be appreciated by its absence. The longer the days of rain, the more the sun is craved. But too many hot days and the sun overwhelms. Learn to keep yourself obscure and make people demand your return." Let your own skills extend to the law of scarcity. Make what you do and offer rare and hard to find.

Some of the reasons a person will do a MIA (Missing In Action) is so that they are not as accessible, they do not smother you, to become scarce to earn respect and honor.

You have got to build yourself up, create a reputation, create a need that you can only fill and disappear. Thus, causing all to seek you out. Sometimes, "There is a risk that if you are seen habitually, it might lead to jealousy and resentment, and plots would follow; but if nobody sees you, the legend would grow will you will be different among your peers."

In the quest for power, sometimes power can over stay their welcome causing one to get tire of them, lose respect for them and we view those in power as not different to those that were there before them.

A man said to a Dervish; "Why do I not see you more often?" The Dervish replied, "Because the words "Why have you not been to see me?' are sweeter to my ear than the words "Why have you come again?" - Mulla Jami, quoted in Idries Shah's Caravan of Dreams 1968.

You are either there or not there. A strong presence will draw power and attention to you (Strength in numbers has the same effect) but believe it or not the more you are seen and heard from the more your value decentagrates. Things become habitual to you. You become routine. No matter how hard you try to be different you begin to fade in with the rest. If you do not learn how to withdraw yourself before you are unconsciously pushed away, you will lose the game of hide and seek.

"Absence diminishes minor passions and inflames great ones, as the wind douses a candle and fans of fire. La Rochefoucauld, 1613-1680

"Authority: Use absence to create respect and esteem. If presence diminishes fame, absence augments it. A man who when absent is regarded as a lion becomes when present something common and ridiculous. Talents lose their luster if we become too familiar with them, for the outer shell of the mind is more readily seen than its rich inner kernel. Even the outstanding genius makes use of retirement so that men may honor him and so that the yearning aroused by his absence may cause him to be esteemed. (Baltasar Gracian, 1601 - 1658)