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[Lei Lei]

LAW 36

DISDAIN THINGS YOU CANNOT HAVE: IGNORING THEM IS THE BEST REVENGE

When you are a large, powerful entity, you can not allow or tolerate for someone to invade your territory, or disrespect to go without striking back. Sometimes you must make an example for the on lookers. They lay back and watch how you react and deal with their predecessor so that they know how to come to you.

When in power you will be tested. Your power will be tested. Your thought process will be tested. Your strength and logic will be tested. Your delegation skills will be tested. Your leadership skills will be tested. You communication skills will be tested. Your marketing skills will be tested. Your patience will be tested. Your tolerance for pain, whether mental, emotional or physical will be tested. You name it. It will be tested.

"Remember: You choose to let things bother you. You can just as easily choose not to notice the irritating offender, to consider the matter trivial no matter how serious and show that the situation on site is unworthy of your interest." Keep the poker face. Keep the heart. Keep your pride from coming for front. What you do if possible is "ignore, then conspire in secret to do away with what's bothering you, what's affecting you, never inadvertently draw attention to the bothersome insect that will go away or die on its own.

Learn to turn your back on what cannot harm you in the long run."

When you pay attention to a person, you in essence become partners because you are feeding off of each other, actions aor reactions to each other. "By acknowledging other people, even if only to fight with them, you open yourself to their influence.

Being disdain, totally you cancel people out. This unsettles and infuriates them also leaving them useless because their is nothing that they can do. "A war is now waged on your terms. This is the ultimate power pose: You are King or Queen, as you ignore what offends you. This tactic infuriates people and half of what they do is to get your attention, and when you do not give them the satisfaction they are looking for, the feed, they get frustrated.

"MAN: Kick him - he'll forgive you. Flatter him-he may or may not see through you. But ignore him and he'll hate you. Idries Shah, Caravan of Dreams, 1968

You know when a person wants something, you chase it, the more it eludes you, the more you want it. The more interest you show, the more it shys away. To much desire, wanting , show of affection, love can make a person feel awkward, sometimes even fearful. And if you can not control yourself can in turn can seem weak and pathetic. Sometimes you need to just turn your back, even on something you want, something you love, something you may need. This will drive those around you that are watching crazy. They will not know what to do, because what they thought would be your weak points are disposable to you. You took your weakness away from them. They don't have what they thought would harm you as a trump no more. If there is something that you want but you realize that you can not have it, do not draw attention to your disappointment by complaining about it.

Being able to play the card of contempt, shows people that you can do without them. This can also fatigue. "By paying undue attention to a puny enemy, you look puny, and the longer it takes you to crush such an enemy, the larger the enemy seems. A second danger: if you succeed in crushing the irritant, or even if you merely wound it, you create sympathy for the weaker side." When you attacked by an inferior, deflect people's attention by making it clear that the attack has not even registered but do not act callous. Never show something has affected you, or show you are offended, that only shows you have acknowledged a problem.

"Contempt is a dish that is best served cold and without affection."

Image: "it is small but painful and irritating. You try all sorts of medicaments, you complain, you scratch and pick at the scab. Doctors only make it worse, transforming the tiny would into a grave matter. If only you had left the wound alone, letting time heal it and freeing yourself of worry."

Authority: " Know how to play the card of contempt. It is the most politic kind of revenge. For there are many of whom we should have known nothing if their distinguished opponents had taken no notice of them. Thee is no revenge like oblivion, for it is the entombment of the unworthy in the dust of their own nothingness. (Baltasar Gracian, 1601-1658)

Let small problems vanish on their own, if they are the one's that can go away by themselves. Do not let them grow. Show contempt publicly, keep an eye out privately and continue to monitor the problem. Learn and develop the skill of sensing problems when they are small, be sure not to take your eye off an irritant nuisance for alive it can smolder and spark into life.

"Just think-it cost your government $130 million to try to get me, I took them over rough, hilly country. Sometimes for fifty miles at a stretch they had no water. They had nothing but sun and mosquitoes...And nothing was gained. Pancho Villa, 1878-1923