Levels

Lei Lei · #1 12-21-07, 08:48 PM

Level 1 - Acquaintance. Hi. Bye. Limited conversation.

Level 2 - Associate. Hi. Bye. Possible Movie. A date or two.

Level 3 - Fuckin Friends. Nicer term Bootie Partners. All of the above plus sex. But you are still free to do who you want, when you want. No ties. No explanations.

Level 4 - The talking to phase. You see by now you should know is a person has a significant other or not. If you find out they do and they didn't tell you in the beginning, you don't have to respect them if they come at you and you can let the whole cat out the bag. You didn't negotiate their partner. They compromised them. and violated you by not telling you, thus taking away the freedom of choice you would have had as to whether or not you truly want to be involved with this person or situation. Now, if you knew about the other person and they come to you, shift them back to their partner. It's not your business. It's not your problem. It's their domestics, so let them deal with it. What ever the person your with says, let them run with it. If you do not agree with it, talk about it later. At this level, you are allowed to date only each other and whoever was already mention as their mate. Remember, if you aren't the main one you are no one, but amongst the other no ones you demand to be the main one.

Level 5 - Commitment. We now go together. There will be no cheating unless we decide to have an open relationship.

You see, the purpose of the levels is honesty and staying true to the situation. These levels help you to determine right and wrong and how to address certain situations. Everytime before you graduate to another level, the two parties are to discuss it. Let each other know whether or not they are ready to go to the next level. There will be times where a person is not ready to go to the next level, and it is at this time to honestly discuss it. If you are not ready to go to another level, you have a shot at slowing your roll so you don't get or the other person doesn't get to caught up.

Example. We are both at level 3. You want to go to 4, I want to stay at level 3. If I don't want to go to level 4 you now have a choice to make. Can I deal with seeing her with someone else? Can I deal with her sleeping with who she choose? Can I deal with her telling me we can't go somewhere because she is going somewhere with somebody else?

If the answer is no, then it is at this time we need to get ready to just be friends. If the answer is yes, then we can continue doing what we do. Choices and Consequences. That is what these levels help you determine.

Remember. Honesty is the best policy. Put all your cards on the table. Leave room for no surprises. Let a person know what they are dealing with. Let them decide.

intruder · #2 12-21-07, 09:01 PM

Why do some get offended when there's a proposal to skip 1 and 2 and just stay at Level 3? I mean, feel free to decline. But no need to feel offended if we're both grown adults

Lei Lei · #3 12-21-07, 09:09 PM

Why do some get offended when there's a proposal to skip 1 and 2 and just stay at Level 3? I mean, feel free to decline. But no need to feel offended if we're both grown adults

To be honest, for a majority of the people, it's a front based on worrying about public opinion and what you might think of them. Sometimes you see a person you just want to hit that. Either because of the way they look, dress, dance, smell, walk or talk. Many times a person messes up when they open their mouth. For example, women pick men. Men don't pick women. A man can approach a woman. But she already knew a majority of the time if she wanted him or not. It has nothing really to do with what he says. You're right. Grown adults, can make grown decisions. If walls could talk the stories they would tell. But they can't so why should we.

intruder · #4 12-27-07, 08:12 PM

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Originally Posted by Lei Lei

Many times a person messes up when they open their mouth. For example, women pick men. Men don't pick women. A man can approach a woman. But she already knew a majority of the time if she wanted him or not. It has nothing really to do with what he says. You're right. Grown adults, can make grown decisions. If walls could talk the stories they would tell. But they can't so why should we.

I just love the way SOME women say that as if they really believe that crap. PLEASE.

Let's get one thing dtraight darling: Not all women are mentally and physically equipped for that. Same goes for men too but i'm just saying it goes both ways

You guys kill me with that "the woman already knows if she wants him or not". Well what in the world makes you think that the man doesnt "Already know" if he wants her too?

Let me ask you this Lei Lei, have you ever made the first move to ask a guy out? If yes do you think he didnt already know if he'd hit that from the time he saw you?

Lei Lei · #5 12-27-07, 08:51 PM

Originally Posted by Lei Lei

Many times a person messes up when they open their mouth. For example, women pick men. Men don't pick women. A man can approach a woman. But she already knew a majority of the time if she wanted him or not. It has nothing really to do with what he says. You're right. Grown adults, can make grown decisions. If walls could talk the stories they would tell. But they can't so why should we.

Sweetie, first of all, I did say for example, women pick men. Men don't pick women. Your right at times, actually many of times people, men and women are not mentally and physically equipped for the fame. That's part of the point that I am trying to make. Whether a person is eqipped or not to play, at least they have been well informed, and so the choice is now theirs. For me, this is about, being well informed and aware of the circumstances and making choice.

I choose to get with you. Or not.

I choose to fuck you. Or not.

I choose to be second to the main girl. Or not.

I choose to deal with the baby mama drama. Or not.

I choose to continue to fall for you knowing you do not want to go to the next level. Or not.

I choose to continue to fall for you knowing you are with someone else. Or not.

You guys kill me with that "the woman already knows if she wants him or not". Well what in the world makes you think that the man doesnt "Already know" if he wants her too?

There is no doubt that a man can know or does know what he wants. I only can write from my perspective and invite people such as yourself to elaborate a one sided opinion into a dialogue between two or more persons.

And to answer your question, yes, I have made the first move in asking a guy out. And yes, of course he already knew that he wanted to hit that, that's why I made his job easier for him.

intruder · #6 12-28-07, 05:22 PM

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Originally Posted by Lei Lei

I choose to get with you. Or not.

I choose to fuck you. Or not.

I choose to be second to the main girl. Or not.

I choose to deal with the baby mama drama. Or not.

I choose to continue to fall for you knowing you do not want to go to the next level. Or not.

I choose to continue to fall for you knowing you are with someone else. Or not.

My point exactly but you guys say it as if us men dont make these choices too.I've been with females who wanted to make it more than a level 3 affair and i chose not to.

Whats the difference? You talking as if all the choices are yours and the dude is just following like a dummy.

Sometime i may let a woman make certain decisions in the relationship but deep down i already knew what direction i wanted to go with it anyway. So her expressing it in words and making the decision is nothing to me (at leat she thinks she is)... as long as im getting what I wanted from the go i'm fine with it.

No matter how you spin it IT GOES BOTH WAYS so stop lying to yourselves thinking that you're dominating something because you are not. End of story.

Lei Lei · #7 12-28-07, 05:44 PM

Intruder, I thought I established the fact that I am in total agreement with you. What's good for the goose is good for the gander. Of course, MEN CAN DO AND MAKE THE CHOICES WE DO TOO.......Again, that is my whole point. Choices. The choices we (man or woman make, want to make or don't want to make) All that the levels is geared to do, is for those who are emotionally, mentally and physically able to respect these levels can use these levels as a guide line. You said yourself, someone wanted to "make it more than a level 3 affair and i chose not to" a diaolgue took place somewhere, for her to say she wanted more and you didn't. At the point that you said you didn't want to move on to the next level, she had a choice to make based on your decision. She had to choose whether or not she could deal with staying at where you wanted to stay at or to leave you alone. And you had to decide, whether or not you wanted to stand your ground and not move further or to leave her allone.

The levels is a dialogue box. The levels are to open a line of communication so that there is no miscommunication.

It really doesn't matter how the game is played. Because at the end of the day, its about who gets what, no one really cares how they got it.

Its a selfish world. And that's part of our problem as a whole.