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LAW 12

USE SELECTIVE HONESTY AND GENEROSITY TO DISARM YOUR VICTIM

Sometimes you have to act or look sincere and honest, even when you don't want to. Think about it, would you trust someone who is showing you that they are not honest. Now remember, there are two sides to all of this, because part of all of these lessons is for you to recognize when someone is doing it to you also. Sometimes you must treat yourself like you are around a bunch of wolves. You may get depressed. Look at Capone. His lifestyle and who he was caused him to trust no one. But a simple act of selective honesty disarmed Capone because it was unexpected. A man by the name of Count Victor Lustig went to Capone and said, give me $50,000 and I will return it doubled in a couple of days. After talking, talking talking he persuaded Capone to give it him, knowing the penalties. He took the money and went and put it in a safety deposit box and left town. Never having any plans to double the money. A couple of days later he return to town. He went to see Al Capone. He said, Mr. Capone the deal didn't go how I planned. Capone started to rise to get ready to place the order to have the man killed. Lustig said, the deal didn't go through the way he planned so here is the $50,000 back. Capone was caught off guard. And ended up giving Lustig $5,000 for his supposed honesty and not losing the money.

The essence of deception is distraction. Distractions give you time and space to do what isn't noticed. Believe or not an act of kindness, generosity, or honest is often a powerful form of distraction. However, if you are not one who usually does this, it will take you sometime to begin to show people that you have supposedly changed and that there is nothing out there in it for you. You know that saying give to receive, it's really give so they don't realize that you are taking in this case. You are not baiting the person for what you want. That is why on the opposite end, if a person throws in your face, well I did this for you or I gave you that, then you need to tell them that you most not have done it from the heart. So you shouldn't have. But if they are throwing something in your face that was as deed or something that you couldn't have obtained on your own, then tell them thank you.

Believe it or not sometimes it is dangerous to just ask for what you want, even if politely. I say that because some may view you as a beggar.

Selective honesty is best done with someone you first meet. We are human, and are "creatures of habit". If we a person and at first we believe that they are honest that impression will go a long way, or at least until we see otherwise. Reputation for honest is built on a series of facts, and acts. One your reputation is established and there is a point of reference, you can begin.

Honesty and a gift go hand and hand. When we get a gift we are like little kids no matter how old you are. But you must be leery sometimes, Look at the gift of the Trojan horse. So be careful. In this part of the game you are playing on dangerous ground. If people see through it, their feelings of gratitude and warmth will become violent hatred and distrust. But if not, you can reek havoc.

You have to keep in mind, if you or a person is know for deceit, no amount of honesty, generosity, or kindness is going to full anyone. In fact all it will do is call attention to yourself. "A man who never once in his life had shown his cards was telling other people to show theirs, cause people to not realize that that is a deceptive ploy to counteract the fact that people know he's crooked. By embracing his reputation for dishonesty, he preserved his ability to deceive."