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LAW 20

DO NOT COMMIT TO ANYONE

In the game of power, when you give a person the feeling that they can possess you, you're fucked. You lose all power. However, if you do not commit or show your affections, they will try harder to win you over. You have to understand, if they got you, what do they need to continue to work on getting you for. Giving them hope, keeps one trying. Satisfy their need, makes you the one conquered. Look at Queen Elizabeth, where would it have been heard of for the most part for a woman to rule and rule successfully without a man. Imagine, men debated, and attempted to delegate suitors for her to marry. Imagine, they even tried to rush her to marry in her older years, by mentioning she should marry before she is viewed too old or unable to bear children. Elizabeth however, knew the game. She understood the game of power. She played with her suitors through games of sexual fantasies, using her supposed virginity as a pawn. She even kept the hopes of two bothers, alive, dukes of Anjou and Alencon, brothers of the French King. Elizabeth wasn't stupid, she even allowed the duke of Anjou to make visits to England and kiss her in public only until the Treaty between France and England was signed. For diplomacy she allowed herself to be courted by a man whose presence she could not stand. Queen Elizabeth was smart, she learned from the mistakes of her cousin Mary Queen of Scots. She knew to marry a foreigner would be unpopular; and to favor any particular noble house would open her up to rivalries. Elizabeth knew that marrying and or committing an alliance with one party or nation would eventually bring conflict. Most importantly Elizabeth knew if she got married her husband would probably attempt to cut her head off, for he was now in power and could do so. Thus, Elizabeth came up with two goals: no marriage and no war. She spent her life flirting with men and conquering countries.

I would rather be a beggar and single than a queen and married. Queen Elizabeth I 1533-1603

It is sometimes hard in the beginning to be alone. But you get use to it. It also becomes fun. You're able to do what you want, when you want, with whom you want, the way you want.

Power at times depends on appearance. The more that you are in the game, The more you know how to change and manipulate your appearance and that of those around you. You learn how to make things look and sound good even when they are not. Sometimes standing alone makes you look powerful, because, old school training will have some one say to themselves "just because they look alone does not mean that they are by themselves."

The appearance of power grows in time. As your reputation grows, so can your power. As your independence grows, more and more people will want what you want, want what you have, and a majority of the time will want you. The trick in dealing with this is not to put people off, or make it seem as though you are incapable of commitment but to let them think they have the possibility of having you. Accept their gifts. Accept some of their favors that you didn't ask for. Stimulate their attention, just don't commit. Once you commit, you become like everyone else.

When you have people competing, put yourself in the middle without emotional entanglement. Don't get caught up or you will be your own down fall. Stimulating hopes allow you to keep the magnet of attention and desire.

You've got to learn not to take sides. The power can take you over and the weak will drain you. To succeed in this game of power, you must learn to master your emotions. We're humans, its going to be hard. But we need to learn self control. Even at that you only can control you. You can not control the emotions or reactions of those around you. Everyone is going to want you to pick sides as they stir up conflict. Don't waste your time or else you will find that you now will be occupied with their problems. Don't get suckered in, do not feel compassion or pity, or else it will cost you. Conflicts like problems only multiply.

You have to find a way to look interested in other people's problems. You must find a way to appear to take sides. You must find a way to look as though you are doing gestures of support. You can give gifts. You can listen with a sympathetic look, or even play your role as a charmer. You must however, disengage in you emotions, keep your sanity, and maintain your inner strength.

Sometime you have to do like the Jones and Trinidad fight. You have to be slow in picking up your weapon. You have to let others exhaust themselves when fighting before you come into attack. Also, sometimes it's good not to support a victor, its better to rejuvenate something that has been ruined.

Time allows you the opportunity to position yourself to sometimes take advantage of a situation. Sometimes it can be to your advantage to play the mediator, but only when it is to secure your own interest. However, you must be weary since it is a risky business. It is hard to see who the stronger party truly is in the long run. If you align yourself right, things will be good. But if you align yourself wrong, things can become a condemnation for you. Fools continually rush into situations. These people do not get as much respect because others believe that they will continually jump ship, and switch sides. Commitment deprives you the opportunity that time gives you. The opportunity of seeing what will happen.

We are all humans. This is a human power game. With that in mind you must remember that you only have so much energy and so much time. Every moment wasted on someone else's affair, will drain you on yours. Don't worry about what people think. You will be called heartless, some will condemn you, but in the end you will be independent and self reliable and in essence gain and main tain more respect and better placement when it comes to power.