As I write this, it's been one year and two months since my father passed. Anger, hurt, devastation, regret, sorrow, searing pain, all of those feeling simultaneously and still couldn't describe my true feelings. I remember of how I try to find thoughts, theories and beliefs that would explain it, that would make it easier to bear, and yet, there weren't any. Death is a profound teacher, I've learned a lot from that experience. I did not know my father much, never lived with him, but he was not a stranger to me. The little time I spent with him every year whether it'd be in person or talking on the phone or reading a letter from him meant a lot to me. I have learned that whenever the question is 'what is important', the answer is always 'Love'.
The truth is I can't go back to give love to my father, but everyday I am given opportunities to give love to those I interact with. I can love my mom, my brothers, my sisters, my friends.
Life is filled with tough stuff. Death, illness and other causes of human suffering are all part of life. Although extremely difficult, these are situations that produce the deepest and most profound growth. For some reason, we are more open to learning when we are hurting. We are softer; we are able to admit that we do not know everything. Must importantly during these times, we need to remember to love ourselves.
It is true that to everything there is a season, let's not wait till the water run dry to share love, it's always a good time to show love to one another. Don't miss any season, especially this holiday season!
To everything there is a season, and a time to every purpose under heaven. A time to be born, and time to die; a time to plant, and a time to pluck up that which is planted; a time to kill, and a time to heal; a time to break down, and a time to build up; a time to weep, and a time to laugh; a time to mourn, and a time to dance; a time to cast away stones, and a time to gather stones together; a time to embrace, and a time to refrain from embracing; a time to get, and a time to lose; a time to keep, and a time to cast away; a time to rend, and a time to sew; a time to keep silence, and a time to speak; a time to love, and a time to hate; a time of war, and a time of peace.
Ecclesiastes 3:1-8
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